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Gospel music diva Grace Chinga-Moffat yesterday told the Blantyre Magistrate’s Court that her husband of 10 years starved her of sex and had extra-marital affairs, but the man denied the allegation, claiming the wife has no proof.
Chinga-Moffat appeared in the court to answer allegations by her husband, Rodger, who is seeking divorce on grounds that she abandoned their matrimonial home in October last year and took away the family’s property.
The soft spoken Chinga-Moffat told the fully-packed court that her husband stopped fulfilling his marital obligations after she gave birth to their second child.
“He lost his (sexual) strength. When I tried to talk it over with him, he just got angry. When I cried, he did not soothe me.
“He only had interest in me when I was menstruating, then he could perform normally but this caused a lot of pain... I even got sick at times and he could just lock me up in the house without notifying my relatives,” she said. According to Chinga-Moffat, the husband used to have extra-marital affairs and that at one time she caught him coming out of a toilet where he was having sex with their tenant’s daughter. (Grace also made other explicit sexual allegations against the husband, which The Nation will not reproduce).
“He totally ignored me when I was normal...What pained most was that he used to mock me. He would take to the sitting room and ask me to choose one of his friends with whom I could have sex...He told our church elders who tried to intervene that he failed to perform in the bedroom because he was usually tired having sex with other women, ” she said.
Chinga-Moffat further told the court that her husband stopped supporting the family and that he was at times stealing her money.
But Moffat denied having any extra-marital affairs and challenged his wife to produce evidence that he had sex with the tenant’s daughter.
“The alleged girl came to the toilet only to find that it was occupied by me and when I came out of the toilet my wife accused me of having sex with the girl. That same day she called our marriage counsellors, told them she was moving out and took away all our property, then about three days later she chased me from the house.
“She could not even listen to our marriage counsellors. But I never had an affair with this girl and my wife does not have evidence that I had extra-marital affairs,” said Moffat, contradicting his marriage councillor who later told the court that Moffat admitted having a three-year affair with the girl.
The counsellor, Godfrey Chiomba, said:
“He accepted that she is his girlfriend and that he preferred her because she ‘tasted’ in a special way.”
But Moffat showed the court pictures of the toilet as evidence and further pulled out Grace’s pictures, demonstrating the way he found her when he married and the person she has become at the moment.
Moffat also asked his wife to tell the court how many times she has been married and how she got her first child.
But senior resident magistrate Diana Mangwana told Moffat that the issue was irrelevant and asked him to stick to issues that mattered in the case.
Moffat, who was at times was booed by people in the public gallery, also told the court that his wife at one time suggested that she be allowed to have sex with his nephew but Chinga-Moffat denied the allegations.
Both Moffat and Grace told the court that they still regard each other as man and wife.
The magistrate will rule on the matter on February 27.
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